Love on Halloween
Halloween and Love...is not something you would usually put into the same sentence but you'd be surprised just how many couples meet each other on Halloween or just enjoy dressing up as famous couples.
It's very easy to meet new people on Halloween because you're basically an actor - and playing a part even more seriously than in usual life. In fact, a huge attraction for halloween goers is being able to 'dress' or 'become' someone or something else for at least one night. With this in mind, what would you choose to be if you could become someone new for one day?
Womens Costume Ideas
Beer Maids - make sure you complete your outfit with a nice pair of boots and braids.
Sexy Cheerleader - any guy's fantasy!
Comic Heroin - Catwoman, Wonder Woman - think 'spandex'
Witch - just don't add any boils, this won't attract any guy
Animal - cat, tiger, etc...just no horses or monkeys!
Playboy Bunny - very popular and extremely sexy. Just make sure you learn the bend or you may find it difficult to move in your costume 
Police Woman - use the badge for strip searches
Men
James Bond - with a nice suit and martini glass...shaken OR stirred 
Han Solo - pick up the nerdy babes with this outfit
Indiana Jones - just don't forget the whip.
Hugh Hefner - just make sure you wear something under the robe!
Pirate - preferably something that reminds us of Jack Sparrow
Fire Fighter - YUMMMMMM and make sure that hose is extra long!
Police Man - at least learn some type of strip dance or this one could be boring
Wolverine - chest hair and all!
Bavarian in Lederhosen - if you want to flatter your ass, pick this one
Couples
Sonny and Cher - very nice and 60's like
Spartan King and Queen - Just make sure your guy has a 6 pack or covers himself with the red robe it this could be embarrassing
Barbie and Ken - bleach heads need only apply
Bonnie and Clyde - make sure you have the fake machine guns or people won't figure it out
Romeo and Juliet - watch the new generation movie for ideas
Danny and Sandy - Very nice choice but don't forget the grease...
Doctor and Nurse - you can use this costume in private as well so nice recyclable choice!!
No matter what you're looking for this Halloween, make sure you are responsible and aware. Ladies, don't get into any cars with Mario or Luigi if you're drunk - guys, if she looks like Marilyn monroe tonight, chances are you'll be waking up to lily allen in the morning.
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5 Red Flags to Spot on the First Date
There are some guys that you go on a date with who seem to be nice, friendly, charming, successful, patient, strong, and the list goes on. You may fall in love with them at first sight, or even after the first smile or huge. In fact, most of these men are some of the best actors alive and all of this for one good reason - they need you to like them because they don't truly like themselves.
The first silent red flags usually occur within the first date but most of you don't pick up on them. It's hard to pay attention to the small things when you are already nervous and self-conscious about hanging out with such an attractive guy. You may even consider yourself lucky to have met them!
Watch out for some of these silent red flags:
1. The way they talk to the waiter or busboy. Narcissists openly look down upon others, and do so more openly with people in service positions. If he doesn't tip, doesn't say 'please' or 'thank you' - or is just plain mean - wait until you're the person doing his dishes and cleaning up the table.
2. Has only great things to say about himself. It's one thing to be extremely confident or even over-zealous on a first date, but if he doesn't say anything negative about himself or is defensive to any comment from you when you question this, he probably has some deep seated issues he needs to deal with. Most of the "I can do no wrong" don't change their behavior and blame others for their mistakes.
3. Pay attention to how he talks about his ex's. Does he praise them? Or even say anything about them? I'm a big supporter or keeping your history under wraps at least until a second date (especially when it comes to ex's) - because you don't want to drag baggage out and dump it on the dinner table after 10 minutes of greetings. In fact, save that until you actually trust the person enough to divulge this information. But if he talks about them more than actually listening to you or asking questions, then you know that he's not yet ready to move on and probably has a lot of ex issues which will only resonate in your relationship.
4. He keeps his private life very secret. This is not a good sign. It's normal to be cautious on the first date, but if he won't talk about where he works or even the sorts of places he hangs out, either he's a commitment-phobe (which is a red flag in itself) or he has something to hide - which may or may not be another woman.
5. Is vague about his long-term plans. He may have accomplished a lot, but when you ask him about his plans for the future he'll have no answer or come up with something like, "Marry, have some kids, and settle down." This is crap - even though some of them may actually mean it, this is a line saved for future conversations and does not reflect anything about him. In fact, if he doesn't have a plan other than having kids or 'settling' down this usually means he's still searching for the woman who will take care of all the cleaning and cooking and child-bearing while he continues his comfortable existence. An unmarried man gaining on age is very aware that he needs to find a new maid before his mother dies. Again, this doesn't apply to everyone.
These are just some of the things you should listen to or watch out for while on a first date. These are things you should be logging into your brain and not forgetting. If you do, it won't be such a surprise when you find out Mr. Charming isn't all that he's cracked up to be!
Demanding Consistency in Your Relationship
If your partner is - not coming home at night, being late for your dates or not showing up at all, not returning your phonecalls/messages - they are not being consistent.
It's normal for people to make mistakes, and even a lot of them. What's not normal is to be constantly unaware of one's actions or behavior in terms of communication within a relationship.
Communication can be displayed in many forms, including verbal, non-verbal (with body language), and also just with plain passive aggression.
You will know your partner is sending you negative communication in the following three scenarios:
1. You call him - he picks up, you say hello and he says, "What's the problem?"
You would normally expect the other person on the line to either say one of two things : "Hi" or "Hi! How are you?" - not an immediate "What's the problem". This is a both verbal and passive aggressive way of letting you know that your phone call is unwanted and you are considered a 'burden'.
2. You arrange a date or pickup time at 7.30 pm. You arrive at the scheduled time. Your partner arrives over an hour late or doesn't even both to show up or call. This is the fifth time this as happened.
This is a passive and almost subconcious way of letting you know where you stand in your partner's life : at the bottom. We all lead busy lives and have things to do, but if that special someone is less and less active in actually being consistent or on-time : then you know things are heading south.
3. Your 'routine' is slowly but surely changing and he/she is starting to arrive home very late at night or not at all.
This is a huge red flag. Either they have a valid excuse like a new project at work or late hours, or they need to figure out a way of coming home at a earlier time, especially if they used to be there at 8pm and now it's 11pm-1am.
You must demand consistency in your relationships. That is the only way to ensure that you are be treated with the respect you deserve. Hold healthy boundaries - lines that should not be crossed regardless of the circumstance.
People will treat you good or bad judging on how much you let them get away with - so if you are constantly ignoring these signs of negative communication or inconsistancy, you are basically letting them know that it is ok to behave in this manner towards you.
New Site Layout and Theme
I just installed WordPress on my site and it's pretty awesome. I uploaded this 'Lunated' Layout but I'm sure to change things around sometime in the future as well. I don't think anyone is reading this but I'm excited anyway!